When I was younger, my mother used to tell me that the reason I never attracted a great boyfriend (today we would use the word “healthy”) was because I was giving off the DESPERATE VIBE. When a guy would approach me, I got very serious and wanting and well, desperate. And as hard as it was to hear that, and ugly a connotation as it was, it was true!
Trouble was, I never knew how to change my vibe. No matter how hard I tried, I always gave off the “desperate” vibe. That vibe, sadly, always attracted other desperate people. Or worse, it attracted weirdos.
So then, I would try to fake my VIBE. Guess who I attracted? Fake people!
Finally, much later in life, I gave up trying to attract anyone and I simply enjoyed my life without a guy. Guess what kind of vibe I gave off? A HAPPY CONTENT VIBE. And guess what kind of guy I ultimately ended up attracting? A happy, HEALTHY, content one.
The moral of this story is to not go out and try to attract a mate per se. It is to be aware of the VIBE you might be giving off. Others can read you and know what you’re all about within the first five minutes. And so, what are giving off? What atmosphere, what energy, what vibration are you exuding? Is it something that others will want to be around or avoid? Do you give off
a PARTY VIBE,
a GET AWAY FROM ME VIBE,
a DESPERATE VIBE,
a NEEDY VIBE,
a NEGATIVE VIBE
Or a HAPPY, HEALTHY PEACEFUL VIBE???
And if you don’t like the vibe you’re giving off, how can you CHANGE it? Well, for starters, you need to understand that you are not your vibe. I know this because, on a good day, when I would focus on something that interested me and got really into it, there would a small window of time where I was giving off a happy vibe, and others took notice. Thing was, I couldn’t sustain it. I would quickly sink back down into depression and desperation because I would lose focus on this task (that created in me focus and contentment) and I would revert back to my previous task of seeking out a boyfriend and being rather disappointed in life that I didn’t have one.
When that happened, the desperate vibe would return and I would be miserable again.
So, from my own experience, the only time I was capable of permanently changing my vibe was when I gave up hoping and dreaming for that very thing I wanted so much. And instead, I focused on what I had and said, “let me be happy with this!” At the time it wasn’t much. But I made the best of it. And when that happened, my whole disposition change. My energy changed. And I began to attract happier, healthier people.
This concept comes from The Law of Attraction. Read about it. There are several books on that topic.
Until then, what’s YOUR vibe? What would you like your vibe to be, and how do you plan on changing it?