The Lovely Addict, now “Girl Rebuilt” was started at the tail end of 2008. It was supposed to be my personal online “diary” about the woes of my dating life and a few of the harsh lessons I learned along the way. And it definitely was that. If you read back to some of the 2008 entries, believe me, I was at the bottom of the barrel. I was a wreck. But what eventually happened was that I grew up, and decided to share my experiences on how to get out of a bad relationship, build self-esteem, recognize personal values and rebuild a stronger me.
There are technically three categories here. There’s Girl Rebuilt, which posts features on love, dating, relationships, love addiction and how to rebuild yourself so that messy, yucky relationships are a thing of the past. There’s The Break Up Journal, my personal, once-private, real-life diary of the daily unfolding of the most gut-wrenching, yet life-changing break-up of my life. And there’s Dear Lovely, letters to me that I have posted and answered and share with my readers.
Here’s my disclaimer: I am not a therapist or a counselor. But, I do have one thing a lot of pros don’t. At least 10,000 hours devoted to really bad relationships that I somehow learned to stop having.
Blogger, author, activist, giver of relationship advice, Tracy Shields has written extensively on the topic of love addiction and recovery since 2008, appeared in the documentary Love Addict, by Pernille Rose Grønkjær and is currently working on her book, Girl Rebuilt, a guide to relationship empowerment. She has been featured in Salon, The Fix, HuffPost Live, and elephant journal. This blog is her story about a few bad relationships (and one super good one), and their transformative power to heal and rebuild.