Being away from the one you love is painfully excrutiating when you are addicted to that person. Being away from the one you love when it’s not a good, strong, healthy or wholesome relationship can be tough too, especially if there’s lack of trust. But how does it feel to be away from the one you love when you are long past addiction, well into recovery and have a healthy relationship?
The answer is somewhat complicated. It’s different for everyone. In my case, I will be away from D for 10 days total and while I am sad and miss him (I’m on day 6 today), I am by no means miserable, in pain or suffering. How can that be? Well, for starters, he’s called me three times since I’ve been away (I’m in Spain for those who are curious), and we’ve e-mailed eachother every day, if not twice (plus a few facebook updates). Point is, I trust him. He is letting me know he misses me. He is reaching out to me.
In this world where communication is so easy there’s NO REASON ANYONE WHO WANTS TO TALK TO YOU CANNOT DO SO. Unless of course it’s a matter of camping in the boondocks or taking a spiritual retreat where communcation is prohibited, people can touch base with other with one click of a mouse or a cell phone “enter” key.
Anyway, being back here in SPain with my inlaws after two years has obviously stirred up some unpleasant memories of the last time I was here. I was dating S and he never wrote, never called etc. UNLESS I begged him. That was a sign that there was something wrong with our relationship; I just didn’t know it then. Travel can be tricky, especially when traveling together or apart. It can also be eye opening, so look for signs of health in your relationship via your travels. It could lead to an awareness of something you were not able to recognize before.