Are you writing out your New Year’s Resolution with your Love Addict brain or your recovery brain? Here’s the difference!

Love Addict’s Resolutions:

• Teach him to pay more attention to me.
• Show him how to be a better listener and friend
• Convince him to stay
• Help him love me and remain present in my life
• Change his “bad” qualities so that he loves me more
• Demand more affection
• Set an ultimatum on all his affairs
• Obsess more. The more I obsess, the stronger our relationship grows…

Recovering Love Addict’s Resolutions:

• Write out a list of my Values and learn what it means to stick to them
• Get better at putting up boundaries, and/or respecting those that are already in place
• Read a page of theLovelyAddict.com’s blog every day OR any reading material on love addiction
• Look in the mirror every day and find something beautiful. No matter what.
• Spend 10 minutes every day doing a soul searching activity–ask, “What am I trying to avoid by putting all my focus and energy into thinking of this relationship or this person?”
• Figure out what I love to do, without any special person in my life. Just me. Do not allow myself to say, “nothing.”
• Every time I get the urge to call, text, visit, stalk, or see the PoA, I will go to the LAA message boards and post and wait for someone to respond with a VALID reason I should make contact. If that doesn’t happen, I remain in NC.